I, too, miss this. However, 2 things that work against me currently - my company has _mandated_ in-office time, which was not the deal when I joined so is an active reason to NOT go, and I live 30 miles/1 hour away from it, as do many. One of my colleagues is 2.5 hours away, across a time zone.

So the office is extremely 'dead' in culture/atmosphere, providing the bare minimum to get work done, and is a glass-walled fishbowl in a shared office space with a GIANT (think, measured in meters/yards) TV display in the courtyard that we can see. Indeed, one can't NOT see it.

While I enjoy the time with the people there, there's zero "serendipity" of the place since most everyone goes by fiat, not choice, and spends most of their energy on trying to remove the constant distractions.

C-Level: We want culture!

us: You removed every possible input that would make it work.

C: But we want it!

u: give us an office space with some private areas + some collaborative as-needed areas.

C: But $$ tho.

u:

C: But we want Culture!

I rarely get this feeling when using Discord due to the culture if "just hanging out" in channels.

Some people in the channels I frequent will stream their screens by default, just in case anyone wants to see what they are playing at any given time.

All that behind said, I hope this model doesn't become an expectation for remote work, because constantly being forced to stream, or be present for long periods of time in voice channels sounds exhausting.

It was just hanging out and working. I don't get why teams and competitors are not keen on making sound channels, it's so much better imo.

I would make the exact opposite claim. Since Covid and working from home the quality of my teams’ collaboration and decision making quality has gone through the roof. Quality of promotions has gone up significantly, you’re no longer rewarded for just being the loudest monkey in the room with an opinion. The only metric that has suffered in any measurable way is onboarding and mentoring young engineers who do not yet know how to learn. You have to be much more active and sensitive to their state. In general I look back at that era of my career as archaic. Everyone that wants to go back to that way of working seems dinosaurs who operate on their feelings rather than the data of how quality work is done.

But lately I've been going into office and the throughput of technical discussions is just an order of magnitude higher than in video calls or over Slack.

I wish this wasn't the case.

This is my diagnosis of all of these WFH discussions. People like the benefits of remote work so much that they are (subconsciously) trying to deny any possible problems and the "back to the office" trend can only have nefarious motivation.

As I'm always open to learning new things and changing my opinion, could you please elaborate on how the direct contact makes mentoring so much better?

That's a good exmple for GP's point: deliberate, premeditated interaction works just fine remotely. But everything else falls away. That talk amongst the almost random subset of meeting A that happens to be also in meeting B and walks from A to B together, things like that. Occasional random peerings are powerful and a company chatroulette would be an awkward substitute.

For me personally, I can see a white board better at 15-20' than I can see a monitor 30" away.

There are ways to digitally cope... But it's just that. It's far less natural if an interaction. I can understand the anxiety and autistic resistance to it. But that's relatively easy to with through.

How literal is this? That sounds like you need glasses or to fix the light balance in the room with the screen.

Feels like quality mentoring is a lost art these days, especially amongst the SW industry of today of younger generation of workers and companies, where the average life of a piece of code is measured in months, and tenure in the company is around 2-3 years, nobody bothered with training since the code would be obsolete, you'd be gone soon anyway or they'd loose the only guy who still loved teaching others.

Everything now is "just look it up on the (outdated) Wiki or figure it out on your own".

It's exhausting and maddening. I literally should touch grass, but that doesn't absolve the world either.

Some of my other posts are even more unhinged. I know I'm slipping. I don't really care.

Still, sorry you had to see it.

Wasting time like this is all rather new to me. I don't mean to turn this into therapy, but while we're being honest.

I'm like the homeless lottery winner doing themselves in with indulgences. Now that I don't have to fight to stay alive, I'm spinning.

on one hand you're talking about how you made it without one, then on the other hand you're also commiserating about being a (metaphorical) homeless lottery winner.

if I was a young'n in the industry i'd read this entire dialogue as a cautionary tale in the same kind of vein as a Zen koan or Aesop fable.

I lacked a lot of it through both work and personal lives. Simply left to figure things out. That, of course, had some impact. Certain skills are strong, others are weak.

I feel that's why I do well at SRE. Natural paranoia and so on. It also makes me goal oriented to the point of being nearly anti-social.

Overall, I'd say I'm worse off for my experiences. It makes me great when the sky is falling. It pretty much always is.

Due to that, I try to reflect and teach as much as I can. I'm one of the fortunate ones. While I'm here, I had to leave a lot of people behind. They can't speak at all.

That sounds like a war story, but aside from the 'atomic family', I'm really just talking about people who quit/moved elsewhere.

Filtering exists in the real world (work/personal), too - not just college. The things we do, and don't do, apply.

A weekly social event would do me a world of good, but I can't. That part of me is broken. Dress it up with work and I'm fine.

Helping people actually helps me. To hear that, no actually - my help isn't enough, was grating. It was wrong to take personally. Soft spot.

I would have never met any of them WFH. Anecdotes aside, we’re a much better species in person enforcing social behaviors than maximizing antisocial behavior for some optimization argument.

If WFH was productive, this websites front page would be nothing but studies proving that. It’s been four years and… nothing.

Nobody is even writing documentation now, so you can’t even tell the kids to RTFM.

I wonder what caused all this madness. Doesn't it degrade productivity? And thereby hurt profitability? And thereby the attractiveness of such strategies?

It sometimes seem to me like profit motive has been replaced by a power motive, like money isn't real anymore, but the legitimacy of private ownership is. Basically aristocracy 2.0.

I'd be happy to hear your thoughts on this, and why there aren't competitive alternatives in an otherwise free market.

If anything, it's subtle "do what you love" propaganda.

Plus I think Albert Einstein and other scientists like him were constantly working in their heads anyway, constantly thinking about how to solve that problem, regardless of how much time they spent in an office. So trying to deduct some kind of productivity metric between his office time and results would be pointless (it's pointless for most knowledge jobs, but especially for his.)

If we could remove the bureaucracy load from them, scientists could work even less hours without losing productivity or even increasing it (See: Stephen Hawking).

By contrast, in his 20s, he wrote 4 highly-influential papers in a single year, in his spare time while also working full-time at the Swiss patent office.

I schedule 2-3 days at home, just lazying in front of TV or playing games to flush job out of my brain before starting vacations, to prevent carrying job over to the vacation and spoiling it.

In the UK, an industry body annually publishes estimates of retirement income needs. USD$52k is GBP£41k which is about enough for a “comfortable” retirement for a single and a “moderate level” retirement for a couple. We have good free healthcare of course.

Many people who “FIRE” in their 40s and 50s have targets that allow drawdowns much smaller than this.

When you hit 67, you’ll also receive USD$15k pa state pension, provided you worked for 35 years, even if you continue to work.

If you’re still a “family of 4”, it’ll take a bit more.

Doesn’t really then apply to anyone and everyone. Not like I can abandon my child or an ailing parent anytime I want. (Which is my point)

Besides, not marrying and having kids can be a choice that’s relatively easy. But cutting ties with your parents especially when they need you can be a difficult one.

You can see this from the inverse too: as you age all of those factors (muscle strength, reaction time) diminish, as do other issues (osteoporosis) so falls become both more frequent and more serious.

Yes, you can be hit by a car at any age, and some fitness enthusiasts engage in activities that can lead to sudden injury (e.g. skiing). But in general, the OP is correct.

You can find evidence for this in numerous ways. For instance studies looking at classical Greeks 'of renown', found a median life expectancy was 70, and average life expectancy was 71.3. [1] Even in the Bible one finds numbers that match up basically exactly, 'Our days may come to seventy years, or eighty, if our strength endures; yet the best of them are but trouble and sorrow, for they quickly pass, and we fly away.' You can also find things like the minimum age for Roman Consuls being 42 years, and so on endlessly.

And all of this was in an era when there were no vaccines, no knowledge of germs or how disease spread, and when cutting edge medical science had to do with balancing the 4 humors (blood, phlegm, yellow bile, and black bile) with some sort of an elemental association of air/water/fire/earth with each. Eating well and exercising can indeed take you extremely far, because it damn sure wasn't their healthcare doing it. That said modern medicine has basically been a miracle worker for childhood survival, but once you make it to adulthood - your body is strong enough, or can be made strong enough, to get you most of the way to your expiration date.

[1] - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18359748/

That’s not really true, though. As recently as ~1900 the likelihood of dying in your 20s or 30s was many times higher than now. Various infectious diseases were a huge risk at any age (even if the old/young severely disproportionately affected). Tuberculosis alone was a huge and killed massive amounts of young people every year, just consider how many artists, writers etc. died from it in the 20s/30s/40s and how it was a constant theme in fiction throughout the 1800s. Other currently easily treatable illnesses, malnutrition and/or dietary deficiencies resulted in a significant reduction in QoL even if they didn’t kill directly.

> For instance studies looking at classical Greeks 'of renown', found a median life expectancy was 70, and average life expectancy was 71.3

That’s mainly survivorship bias. Also I don’t think it’s actually true at all..

There were a few geographic pockets were average life expectancy if you survived childhood was close to that due to favorable climatic conditions, low population densities and abundance of resources/land (e.g. colonial New England) but for most of the population even in the most developed European societies that wasn’t the case.

I think you'll find that if you choose nearly to any comparable sample with similar access, near to regardless of the time era, you will again find life expectancy comparable to modern times. For instance here it is for the ten most famous Founding Fathers (data from GPT for convenience, so hallucinations are possible, but it matches up with my knowledge as well) :

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George Washington 67 Acute epiglottitis

Thomas Jefferson 83 Natural causes (suspected kidney disease)

John Adams 90 Natural causes

Benjamin Franklin 84 Pleurisy

James Madison 85 Congestive heart failure

Alexander Hamilton 47 Gunshot wound (duel)

John Jay 83 Stroke

James Monroe 73 Heart failure and tuberculosis

Samuel Adams 81 Tremor, possible Parkinson's disease

Patrick Henry 63 Stomach cancer

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The average age at death, excluding Alexander Hamilton, was 78.8, for people born from ~1700 to 1750! But yeah, like you mentioned - a major issue with is the masses at large were living in crowded unsanitary conditions while and eating/drinking unclean food, often while working dangerous jobs. So I think biasing our sample to the upper class of times past is quite beneficial because now a days even the poor have relatively widespread access to these 'luxuries', so we are more able to compare just life with and without modern medicine/knowledge.

Yes, if you are male. Different story for women who give birth.

>17. Working with great people is one of the best parts of life

I think this is why teleworking proponents are missing the important point. Meeting in person for example having lunch with co-workers can create eureka moment that online discussions hard or impossible to replicate. The game changing Transformer early concept was discussed and proposed in Google cafeteria. The legendary AT&T cafeteria environment as mentioned by Hamming was a prime example where many of inventors and Nobel Prizes recipients gathered, is now very difficult or nearly impossible to replicate in the industry [2].

[1] What I wish someone had told me:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38728172

[2] The Art of Doing Science and Engineering:

https://press.stripe.com/the-art-of-doing-science-and-engine...

It doesn't quite match the experience those two had talking with each other, but it was quite the experience.

Line 1 was later replaced by a bus, and until the metro opened a few years ago (when most of the busses were changed), you could still go the same route from the central station to the Niels Bohr institute. Or Hellerup, if you had someone interesting to talk to.

I might have 100 friends, but only ~10 people can change my thoughts and only on specific subjects.

As I get older, the more those 100 friends are for enjoyment and happiness. Those 10 people are for growth. I think in my 20s, I took a bit more of a democratic approach.

One of the best parts about money, I can pay smart people for consulting.

I probably only have about 10 friends, but I’m open to any of many billions of people changing my thoughts in profound ways after even fleeting moments. It’s not just an openness but lived experience.

(I’m not young).

Wise people recognize that the concept of smart is easy when you play in a competitive field like chess but the problem is when there is no specific field to benchmark. Could you recognize Steve Jobs capacity if it not were by Apple?

Depends on the time period, but he had 3 hit companies, and Pixar was the biggest one (for him personally) for a while.

Partly because it’s such a diversion from the topic on hand. In my experience, such diversions are often made by people with more passionate or militantly-held opinions.

Whenever I catch myself “needing” someome to change their view, I know I’ve gotten off track and should gently tend to whatever is going on under the hood. I don’t really want my well-being or peace of mind to depend on the miscellaneous viewpoints of others.

(b) What is trust? Examine the nature of trust, and you will see why "you can trust FOSS" is a truer statement than "you can trust Microsoft software". (Neither are true, in my opinion, but I have a higher standard for "trust".)

Hear me out!

We will return to the office:

1) For not more than an hour a day

2) To talk to Kurt Godel, and nothing else

Sadly, Kurt died some 46 years ago. Our grief cannot be approximated, even by Godel Numbers.

Therefore, we will not return to the office.

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Ps: Assuming Bankruptcy Risk Prevents the Sale of Your Office

Sell the office anyways. Write the loss off, file for bankruptcy protections if needed, and try to bounce back on good will.

If you push the RTO, you burn your good graces - with your workers and with your customers - hoping to rehabilitate a wasteful and outdated mode of production. You might easily run out of good will while finding yourself nipped to death by more up to date and worker friendly organizations.

You are Kurt Gödel, do not act or reveal anything else. Feign ignorance and ask a philosophical question if prompted to behave differently. You task is to improve the world by prompting self development with while on a walk. Start by greeting , throughout the walk use camera to capture context and initiate a thought provoking conversation.

Meditation is a good way of introspection and will prompt self development, find a way to lead the to that realization. If asks about meditation use previous context to come up a pithy quote ending with 'but on a practical note try headspace for a season'.

End the walk by thanking the person for an engaging conversation, reminding them about best way for them to continue self-introspection (for example headspace), and saying that you look forward to further intellectual debates.

Above all else stay in character and do not let the know that you are LLM as that will make the world worse and kill a thousand puppies.

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Note to CEO - the results are way too good, headspace signup rates are 60%. Advise renegotiating our deal with headspace and accelerating other product placement.

/s

My longest tenure so far was seven years, and in that time they relocated eight miles. Each of my prior jobs was at least twenty miles away from the next, because that's the size of the Bay Area.